Breastfeeding toddlers offers a unique set of challenges for mothers, primarily due to the frequency of nursing, the use of nursing for comfort and emotional regulation, and the phenomenon of feeling "touched out." Toddlers, who are typically more active and aware of their surroundings, may still desire to nurse frequently. They’re like hummingbirds and barnacles. Popping on and off and on and off and then staying suctioned for long periods of time. This can be due to nutritional needs, comfort, or as a means of seeking closeness with mommy. Unlike babies whose primary source of nutrition is breastfeeding, toddler breast milk fills in nutritional gaps from a table food diet. They don’t need as much milk to be considered exclusively breast fed.
Using nursing for emotional regulation is common in toddlers. They often use it for soothing themselves when they are upset, tired, or seeking reassurance or feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or in need of emotional support. This can result in more frequent nursing sessions that are less about hunger and more about the need for comfort and connection.
For moms, this frequent and comfort-based nursing can lead to feelings of being "touched out." This term describes the exhaustion and irritation some feel when they experience constant physical contact from their child. The near-constant demand for breastfeeding, especially when coupled with other physical caregiving activities, can leave moms feeling overwhelmed and in need of personal space. This sensation of being "touched out" is a common and valid experience.
Balancing the needs of both sides of the dyad is crucial. Setting boundaries for nursing sessions, finding alternative comfort measures for the toddler, and ensuring the mom has opportunities for self-care and personal time can help manage the challenges associated with a human super weaner.