What they don’t tell you about your baby’s sleep

The sleep industry has become a significant player in the parenting world, offering products and services that often frame infant sleep as a problem to be solved rather than a biological process to be supported. This framing has led to a growing market of sleep training programs, specialized swaddles, bassinets, and apps designed to “fix” perceived sleep challenges. However, this approach frequently disregards the normal biological patterns of infant sleep, rooted in evolution and human physiology.

Biological Infant Sleep Patterns

Newborns and infants have sleep-wake cycles that are drastically different from adults, characterized by:

• Short sleep cycles of 40–60 minutes, with frequent awakenings.

• A strong biological need for nighttime feeding, particularly in the first 6–12 months, to support rapid growth and brain development.

• A preference for proximity to caregivers, which has evolutionary roots in ensuring safety and promoting bonding

Studies show:

Night wakings are normal: Research indicates that 50–70% of infants wake at least once per night to feed at 6 months of age, and about 30% still wake regularly at 12 months.  Night feeding is linked to maintaining milk supply in breastfeeding mothers and reducing the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) due to lighter sleep patterns in babies

The sleep industry often capitalizes on parental exhaustion, societal pressures for “independent” babies, and a lack of understanding about normal infant sleep. By marketing solutions that promise longer stretches of sleep or earlier “self-soothing,” the industry shifts the narrative toward sleep as a problem requiring intervention.

Key issues include:

Creating unrealistic expectations: Sleep training programs often promise that infants can sleep through the night by 3–6 months, despite evidence that this is biologically uncommon.

Commercializing fear: Products like high-tech bassinets and sleep monitors frequently market themselves as essential for safety or parental peace of mind, exploiting fears about SIDS or sleep deprivation.

Undermining parental confidence: The focus on external solutions can make parents feel inadequate or dependent on products rather than trusting their instincts and understanding their baby’s needs.

Economic Impact

The baby sleep industry is lucrative, with estimates suggesting it generates billions of dollars annually. Sleep training programs alone can cost hundreds to thousands of dollars, while specialized products like bassinets (e.g., the SNOO) or sleep consultants command premium prices.

Supporting Biological Sleep

Supporting biological infant sleep involves educating parents about what’s normal and providing realistic, evidence-based guidance:

Co-sleeping or room-sharing: Studies show that close proximity helps regulate infant sleep and feeding, aligning with natural patterns【16†source onsive parenting:** Responding to a baby’s nighttime needs fosters secure attachment and helps them feel safe, which can improve long-term sleep habits.

Adjusting expectations: Understanding that night wakings decrease gradually as babies grow can reduce stress and the perceived need for intervention.

Why This Matters

By acknowledging infant sleep as a normal, adaptive process, we can shift the focus from “fixing” babies to supporting families holistically. This involves recognizing the pressures placed on parents by the sleep industry and offering empathetic, science-based support that validates their experiences. Ultimately, the goal should be to empower parents to trust their instincts and navigate the realities of infant sleep without unnecessary commercial pressures.

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